To the unsaved, get saved and enjoy marital bliss in Christ; get saved and walk in God’s plan and purpose for your life. Stop toiling in marriage. You cannot enjoy God’s plan for marriage if you don’t acknowledge Him. Someone says, “Well I know Christian marriages that have failed. I know Christian couples that still struggle like I do.” I know quite a few as well. I can confidently tell you something went wrong. Not sure what, but something went wrong. Any Christian who diligently applies the principles of God in life and marriage cannot fail.

To the singles, understand that singleness is not a disease to be cured but a time to enjoy and bask in God’s presence. It is a time to be separated to God. A time to get comfortable in your own skin, a time to build character, a time to understand your strengths and identify your weaknesses and turn them into strengths, a time to discover the very reason (purpose) He saw when He created you. Don’t get into a relationship without first finding you. The first thing God gave Adam was His presence not a wife, not a job and not a house. God knows that only His presence can help Adam keep every other thing. Don’t get into a relationship with someone who prioritizes your presence over God’s presence. You can never lose out on God’s best for a spouse if you prioritize His presence, but you will definitely lose God and every other thing including your spouse if you prioritize your spouse’s presence over God’s presence.

To the saved experiencing stagnation and misery in marriage, the same Spirit that raised Christ from the dead will give life to your marriage. Christ died so that you will not have a dead marriage. God has made all grace abound towards you. Understand that the grace supplied is to enable you apply the marriage principles from God’s Word. In view of this, Paul wrote:

But by the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace toward me was not in vain; but I labored more abundantly than they all, yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me (1 Corinthians 15:10).

Without the grace of God on your marriage, you will toil. Too many marriages are based on the limitations of chemistry, the volatility of emotions, the disappointment of feelings and the entrapment of rules and regulations. This is why too many people get married and get stuck. They are trying very hard to enjoy their marriage based on the dos and don’ts. Jesus said, He has come to give us life in abundance, and part of this redemptive privilege is a fulfilled blissful marriage. I pray that your marriage begins to experience the grace it requires to thrive in the name of Jesus as you seek biblical truth on marriage principles.

To those thinking about divorce, get counsel. God loves you and His desire is that you prosper in all walks of life including marriage. Just like you visit a doctor when you feel pain in your body or a dentist for tooth ache, you need to seek counsel about your desire to divorce. This desire signifies pain in your marriage. There is no shame in that desire. Nevertheless, it will be a shame if you allow that desire to rob you of your marriage, deprive your children of a stable home and also prevent you from unleashing your potential to humanity. The difference between success and failure in marriage is how you choose to react to the desire to divorce. Irreconcilable difference (one such desires) is the major cause of divorce presently.

You can choose to either marry that desire and then divorce your spouse or divorce that desire and marry your spouse.

Marriage requires you doing your due diligence and letting the Holy Spirit play His own part (supplying the grace and wisdom you need). God wants to heal your marriage because He loves you beyond words can describe. Marriage is not about rules, dos and don’ts but about freedom to express your God-given potential.

Always remember that “Marriage is a not a destination but a journey that gets better with time.”

Love Always,

Toyosi Erogbogbo

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  1. Thank you so much sir for this word. My marriage is barely 3weeks old and I am already getting frustrated. I realize that I want to do things on my own forgetting that I need the HolySpirit to guide me in being a friend, helpmeet, companion, lover to my husband.
    It gets so bad sometimes that any little he does irritates me . He is a good man and I believe I have not found my true self and it is a struggle daily trying to know my purpose on earth. It is just like this moment I know and the next I am in doubt. This has affected the friendship that existed between my husband and I before I got married.
    Thank you so much for the words.

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